I do apologize if I came off being an a hole, I've just had a much different experience on the forums I've seen. Admittedly I've not joined many phantom sites including the sister site to this one but it's just crazy to me how many people come to these solo owners or 3dr sites that haven't even tried solo and bash away.
If that's not you as I said I'm sorry, most times when day one there's a comment made like this, it's followed by hundreds of posts just pointing out problems and never trying to solve them. As a couple guys earlier I tried to referee we got off on the wrong foot.
Welcome to the forum, beside these controversial posts it's generally a great positive place to address and solve any issues.